When god became lonely
he created man,
Or was it
When man became lonely
he created god.
2. Overgeneralization: Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I didn’t get hired for the job. I’ll never get any job.”)
3. The mental filter: Focusing on the negatives while filtering out all the positives. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.
4. Diminishing the positive: Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“I did well on the presentation, but that was just dumb luck.”)
5. Jumping to conclusions: Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“I can tell she secretly hates me.”) or a fortune teller (“I just know something terrible is going to happen.”)
6. Catastrophizing: Expecting the worst-case scenario to happen (“The pilot said we’re in for some turbulence. The plane’s going to crash!”)
7. Emotional reasoning: Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel frightened right now. That must mean I’m in real physical danger.”)
8. ‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’: Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do and beating yourself up if you break any of the rule
9. Labeling: Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)
10. Personalization: Assuming responsibility for things that are outside your control (“It’s my fault my son got in an accident. I should have warned him to drive carefully in the rain.”) Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anxiety_self_help.htm
"First - Chill - then Stupor - then the letting go."
This is a copy of one of the photos I sold last yr for the Typhoon Haiyan survivors. Out of all the photos I put there, this is the one I displayed in my room as I want this to be a constant reminder -
When tired, rest; When everything is in chaos, pause - then continue.
Strength wasn‘t about being able to do everything alone. Strength was knowing when to ask for help and not being too proud to do it.
Sad how accurate this is
It’s evident that I’m not feeling good again. Ah, the cycle. Never gets old. In addition to that, the news is making more sick. It’s making things worse.
I am disgusted. I am afraid. I am scared. I am mad. I am tired.
I can’t find the pause button.
I am hopelessly in love with a memory. An echo from another time, another place.
Nothing pulls me down this hard than death news - unexpected ones. Brave souls freed, alas.
The good has always and will always persevere. Victory is subjective to those who are victimized but in the long run, when the storms have settled and the earth stops shaking; you will come to realize that there are no top and no bottoms, just a common ground of heaven and hell. Sometimes you don’t have to bark up catastrophe to prove a point and you don’t have to minimize others to make yourself taller. We are all the same, experiencing similar lessons scheduled for different times in our lives. Silence is beautiful, this I’ve learned. It presents no subject to be discussed upon by others and everything said otherwise is traced to no origins of compassion - just emotional judgement in the event that I do something they don’t agree with. A crab side steps, but never stops moving. This allowed me to witness people stumbling on their own cracks of hypocrisy. I can only wish for one, maybe two things: that you will rise from the depths of your lessons and that maybe, one day, you’ll have come to understand my reasons in which you once criticized but became also guilty of. This is only a fraction of how karma births the beginning of compassion.
I do believe that the original sources of all religions should be taught, because with that we will find our similarities, not just our differences. I believe that if Mohammed, Buddha, Jesus, and Moses all got together they would be best of friends because the spiritual basis of all religions is something that builds unity.
But I guess ultimately what scares me about marriage is where do you find this person? You know a lot of times, most successful relationships, people meet through work, school, mutual friends. But what’s most interesting to me is when people just meet in life, just randomly. You know, I have a friend, he got married, I asked him like “Hey, uh, where’d you meet your wife?” He was like “I was leaving Bed, Bath & Beyond. I was looking for my car - I drive a gray Prius. I saw a different gray Prius, I thought it was mine, I walked up to it, I realized I had the wrong car, but I bumped into Carol, we started talking, that was that”. That’s unbelievable. Think about all the random factors that had to come together to make this one moment possible - this one moment that changed these two people’s entire lives: First off, this guy has to live in this particular town. Then he has to get a gray Prius. Then he has to need to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then he has to go to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then there has to be another guy who also lives in town, also drives a gray Prius, also needs to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond, also goes to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond at around the same time. Then they have to both park somewhat near each other, my friend has to leave before the other guy leaves, see the wrong Prius, think it’s his, walk up to it. Then the woman, Carol, needs to be near the wrong gray Prius for a million other random reasons. They bump into each other, they start talking, their entire lives are changed. That’s the most amazing and terrifying thing about life. It is, cause the amazing thing is that at any moment, any one of us can have that moment that totally changes our lives. You could be leaving the show tonight, bump into someone… it could change your life. You don’t know, that could happen. The terrifying thing is… what if we’re all supposed to be at Bed Bath & Beyond right now?